This One Factor Has A Major Impact On How Often You Have Sex

Use It or Lose It

By Jessica Migala August 18, 2017

The beginning of a new relationship may be hot, but then many couples inevitably cool off and are left wondering: Should we be having sex more?

Turns out, your age (or the age you feel you are) might be the biggest factor in that equation, according to a recent Kinsey Institute report. The 2017 study from The Kinsey Institute, published in the Journal of Sex Research, examined how

age impacted the frequency of nookie. Over a 10-year span, they examined nearly 1,200 middle aged and older adults, asking them how many times they do it, the “quality” of the sex, and how interested they were in sex. And to determine

subjective age (a.k.a. the difference between participants’ chronological age and the age they normally feel), they asked the simple question: “Many people feel older or younger than they actually are. What age do you feel most of the time?
The results? It’s all about your attitude, baby. When people reported that they felt “older,” they were less interested in sex and thought the “quality” of sex was worse. (Add something extra to your sex life with the JimmyJane Form 8 vibe from

the Women's Health Boutique.)

Over the decade-long study, people did start to have sex less often, going from 2.52 times over the past six months to 1.8 times. Unsurprisingly, those with chronic health conditions did it less. Plus, those who did it often at the study’s start

were also having more sex 10 years later. Meaning, your habits now impact those in the future. Use it or lose it, right?

Feeling younger does your body good outside the bedroom, too. Research finds that those who see themselves as younger than the candles on their birthday cake are healthier and live longer, the researchers point out.

But that still doesn’t answer how many sex sessions are best. Well, past research suggests that those who knock boots once a week are the happiest—which also happens to be the number WH readers say they do it on average.

And when you get older, provided you still have health on your side (and, hello, you plan to), you could very well be having sex at that retirement home. WH previously reported on a study that found 32 percent of sexually active women in

their eighties had sex at least twice a month. Whoa. Do you have some catching up to do?

Related: This Is the Age When You Have The Best Sex of Your Life

A roundup of recent sex research from online platform Happify addressed a super-important question: When do people have the best sex of their lives?

According to people in their 50s and 60s (aka those who would know), the best sex of their lives happened in their 40s—specifically at age 46. Hot dayum!

However, there’s a good reason to keep knocking boots on the reg: The roundup found that older couples that have regular sex are happier than those who do it less often.